Opinion
Love Potion!
Published
7 months agoon
By Toyin Falola
I have two messages for you from Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love and lust. She asked me to talk about how a man can love you before I talk about Valentine. This goddess is also in charge of beauty and pleasure. Her department covers sex and romance. She reincarnates as Venus among the Romans, covering the same subjects, including passion and creation. Celtic Áine (not Aina) joined both goddesses. Originally the goddess of the sun, she did not derive profit from that and changed to that of love. She prefers you do love during summer, which is not a good time to visit Greece as it is hot and humid. Well, heat does not disturb my people in Lagos.
Venus asked me to tell Nigerian women that good food is not enough to obtain love. You need to put a love potion in the food, especially efo riro that has the same colour as that of brown or black potion that I offer freely. Please don’t make the mistake of putting the love potion in red sauce, as your secret will be out. If it is in a pouch, avoid putting it under the pillow and bed. Men routinely check those places. I have the one made of powder, which you mix with your regular powder. Be careful; don’t use the one recommended by Mr. Macaroni, as you will then fall in love with him instead of your husband. And don’t use it for Zaddy (Power to the people!), as he has an incurable sexual appetite.
Human attraction is a wonderful feeling. To have someone genuinely care and watch out for the other person is an attribute of the devotion they share. Humans are social, hence the need for interactions from time to time. Many cannot live alone; the books of history on the early civilization of us all have spoken moderately on the coexistence of humans, sharing levels of attraction and devotion.
Love is perhaps the strongest emotion you can experience. The sorrow and emptiness that engulfed a person at the loss of a dear one through death, separation, or conflict shows how weak we are under its influence. It is a deep connection that goes beyond what is being portrayed on movie sets in Bollywood, Telemundo, and K-drama series, from which modern youths get their inspiration. Interestingly, African love and loving styles strongly differ from what is obtained in other parts of the world. The ways obtained from other parts of the world, if conceptualized within African society, can be dangerous. Are you comparing Gu Jun Pyo’s kind of love to that of Femi, an original Yoruba demon? Just dey play.
Love is a beautiful feeling. It is friendship that is inflamed. It is loyalty through thick and thin, embracing human imperfections and weaknesses. To love is to be alive. African loving style is unique; it comprises both expressive and non-expressive shows of affection that bind people. When love is unreciprocating, it allows the feeling of unfulfilled desire for another, which may cause self-doubt, feelings of rejection, and emotional distress. Individuals who experience rejection are usually between two valleys of complex emotional disorders. They begin to question their self-worth and desirability, and some may become desperate to have the one their heart yearns for at all costs. However, in this present age, love is not always the goal; money is. Kudi. Back for ground, Naira for hand. A man can be as ugly as a baboon, but if your pocket is loaded, you are a potential target. If not managed carefully, such individuals may become a nuisance to themselves and society at large, creating a social problem.
This brings to mind questions on the possibility of induced love. Can potions truly make people love? Does a love potion exist? I know how to make some. I will give you 500 numbers to call for reference. I have made one for a woman to attract a Senator. I was the one who made it possible for a woman in her 30s to become a federal minister without having to start as the PA to the Chair of Isola Local Government! Just dey play.
Africans are deeply rooted in ancestral practices and hold these beliefs in esteem. Our connection to ancestral ways is staunch that civilization does not interfere with core African beliefs. Our culture is not a myth or folklore, as we have seen the manifestations of these beliefs in real time. Our belief in the traditional approach to matters of life is strongly attached to the knowledge that extraterrestrial powers exist. The understanding of this allows us to share unique cultural dynamics in today’s world.
Of these beliefs is the knowledge of charms and traditional methods of getting things done. Unlike other parts of the world where this seems to be a myth, love potions exist in this part of the world and have been utilized for years to bring two distant people together. “Ogun ifẹ”, as the Yorùbá calls it, is of various types and levels of potency. There are types in the form of concoctions and food; some can be in the form of “tiro” (eyeliner) or face powder, while others can be utilized by merging two small human edifices tied together. If it is properly done, enemies will become best pals overnight.
Love must have been what Bode thought he felt when he set his eyes on Toyin at the party he attended with his girlfriend. He was a divorcee who wanted to give love another shot, and things were starting to get serious with the lady he brought to the party. Although he was sitting beside his girlfriend, he was immediately unusually drawn to Toyin, but he could not explain it. Before he could remember what day it was, he had followed Toyin to the restroom and literally wanted to eat her. Omo! He could not control himself and followed her until he got her number. By the time he came back to the party, his girlfriend had left angrily, but he was not bothered. Toyin was irresistible, and he wanted her. They spoke on the phone for a while and then linked up later, where they finally did the do. That was the “turning point” for Bode. It was not until eight months later he came back to his senses. All he saw on the floor were red clothes, waist beads, something called “Favour powder,” a bottle of Kayanmata, and a piece of paper with his name written on it sealed in a container. His mum, girlfriend, and friend had to fill him in on what happened, as he could vaguely remember.
After they had sex that day, Toyin moved into his house and barred access to him. In the space of 8 months, he had bought her a car, a house, a land, established a business for her, and was the Odogwu funding her baby girl lifestyle. He was overly jealous and protective of her, so much so that he would not care to fight anyone who even looked at her. His mother said she knew something was wrong when he stopped sending money for his children’s upkeep. It was when he said he had no money to pay his father’s hospital bills but bought Toyin a house at that same period she tightened her oja and went to ori oke. In fact, the mother had gone to the house to see him, only for Toyin to refuse her access to the house and order the gateman to chase her out. Mama Osi! She was nursing this heartache when, one day, she randomly met a woli in the market who narrated to her everything that had been happening and told her that Bode was under a spell. He then said he would follow her to Bode’s house the following day.
Fortunately, Toyin was not in the house when they came that day. As soon as he entered the house, the prophet went straight to where Toyin kept all of her “tools.” She then came in crying and confessed that she was jealous of her friends who were living large and decided to patronize an IG vendor who sold “spiritual Kayanmata.” At this time, Bode’s senses had returned, but he felt like he just woke up from a dream. His friend told him how he had almost run his business to the ground because he kept withdrawing huge sums of money from the company account. When he sat down to calculate everything he had spent on Toyin, it totalled about 150 million Naira. In 8 months! This is the part where I advise you: Fear women!
It is rather sad how this wickedness has now become normal, especially among young ladies who only want the pleasures of life on a platter of gold. They target men who have what they need, and because they wear the “favour powder,” men are automatically drawn to them like insects around bright light. “Do as I say” makes the man do everything they ask of him while Kayanmata keeps him glued to her. I know how to make both.
Despite the pride we take in this, it would be folly not to address the potential problems that arise from these methods, as they involve unethical practices that can endanger lives and social peace. Seeking affection through inducement is not right; it abolishes the essence of mutualism in affection. Using a love potion is like creating a fake reality. Deep down, you know the other person is not invested in the relationship; an entity beyond them is binding them to be with you. It is a situation that is well thought about. It is like being locked up in a dream; you only enjoy the moment while it lasts. The use of potions to get love speaks of the influencer’s insecurities, greed, and obsession with one another, and that is unhealthy.
Modernization or wokeness may be one reason why people believe that love potions do not exist. However, tales are proving their existence even in the face of denial. It is quite difficult to bring in well-documented evidence to back this claim, as many victims do not come out to talk for fear of stigmatization and embarrassment. Also, the legal system does not acknowledge it, as it cannot be proven on paper. Offenders may only be tried when the act leads to more serious harm or crime against another. Alas! The police are yet to catch me!
Love potion is not gender-based. Both genders can become prey unknowingly. Some time ago, an article, which I believe is one of the many stories of potion-induced relationships, was up on the internet. It was about a female corps member serving in a far distant land in Nigeria. At first, no one took it seriously, as it was normal for a lady to cohabit with a man. Things, however, became funny when she got pregnant, and it was discovered she had become one with the man, a “stark illiterate” who barely understood a word in English. All efforts to make her leave were futile till she birthed two kids. She did not realize what mess she was in until she was put to bed successfully. It was too late to cry when she came to her senses.
For men, the reality is quite different. Love potions can be employed on men for many reasons. It could be employed to keep an abusive man in place. Over time, people have always sought solutions to their crises. An abused wife, upon careful deliberations and advice from others, may resort to charms and concoctions to call her husband to order. This goes beyond African traditional medicine, as there are cases where women seek religious heads to give them substances that would keep their husbands calm. Such men would then be at the mercy of these women, doing their bidding. Potions may be used to snatch a man from his woman. An undocumented case was of a man who spends the most in his time at a nearby joint. According to the story, he was generous in his spending and thus attracted the attention of the joint owner, who allegedly served him pepper soup. From that moment, he forgot his home and continued to spend his money on his new mistress.
Nevertheless, it is impossible to rule out mutual attachment in this case. He might have found her alluring and decided to go with his heart. However, the onus lies in the chances that he was under the influence of something sinister. A sane man would rather commit to more than one relationship than abscond from his wife and children.
Amongst the populace, Kayanmata remains the most sought-after. For many, despite the claims by vendors, the product is the leeway to riches and unending gifting from their partners. Although the product is naturally an aphrodisiac, its use has evolved as many continue to attribute it to different things. It costs as little as ₦3000 to get a product, while a full package could be around ₦50,000 or more in this agbado economy. Even with no scientific backing, sales have been on the increase for a long, as it is a common name on the lips of many.
To strike a balance, we may have to consider the impact of good sex in relationships. Sex can be likened to food for some. Sexual energy differs by individual, and denial of sex may be frustrating for some. When the sex life is good, partners feel a high level of satisfaction and thus can result in extending goodwill to the other. This is common sense for humans as they would naturally hold onto what brings satisfaction. In essence, money or love is sometimes not the primary motivator for the use of love potions. Women can use juju on a man just because they know or perceive the man to be “well endowed” and can satisfy them properly. People have different reasons why they do what they do, and you will be shocked when you hear some of them.
If you have been jazzed, I hope this piece opens your brain. If, however, you laugh or even share it with the woman who is using Kayanmata on you, then otilo. I recommend deliverance. If you have not been Kayanmatad, stay safe. The streets are not smiling.
Await my message on Valentine’s Day!
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Opinion
The Thabo Mbeki Letters (Part 11): Africa In Global Politics
Published
15 hours agoon
September 10, 2024By Toyin Falola
The foundation of strong nations is built on mutual integrity and collaboration among regional powers to enhance solid responses to common problems. Challenges are an integral part of the inevitable experiences that people must face and overcome to achieve their collective aspirations and reach new and greater heights. Importantly, challenges can wreck an individual or a group, depending on their resolve to confront the issues confidently or otherwise. In other words, problems do not automatically turn a people or the country into a golden star; often, the disposition of society or the individual facing these issues will determine the outcomes.
Africa’s problems are deeply rooted in the despicable politics of exploitation and predatory feasting orchestrated by the colonizers, and its legacy lingers because of the strategies adopted by the colonial powers. They deliberately created divisions within the continent through the policy of divide and conquer. In response to these challenges, African nations needed to organize resistance to stop the perpetuation of colonial servitude. This became the foundation for the standard front and voices that marked Africa’s independent protests. From East to West, North to South, the cry for autonomy reached the pinnacle and cut the fiercest minds of the despots, creating the necessary atmosphere to resist oppression. Without such a united front, Africa may have continued to face a significant pushover by their former colonial imperialists who were irrevocably committed to the exploitation of African human and natural resources.
Thabo Mbeki
To address these challenges, the Organization of African Unity (OAU) was established in the early 1960s to address the people’s concerns from a united front. The OAU aimed to tackle issues comprehensively rather than piecemeal, ensuring that the issues affecting them would be addressed for the good of the entire continent. However, it could not achieve these lofty dreams, although it was set for active continental politics.
Thabo Mbeki mentions how African solidarity extended to countries actively supporting liberation struggles. One such example is Cuba, which shared the ambition and agitations of African independence, not just in words but in actual practice. Mbeki recounts the contributions of Cuba under the leadership of Fidel Castro, recalling the courageous steps the country took to ensure that the South African people were liberated from the ceaseless intimidations of the oppressive apartheid state. Cuba invested in South Africa’s emancipation by providing human resources to combat the aggressors, demonstrating a deep commitment to the country’s freedom.
Without such bold steps, the activities of these countries would have been destabilized by the oppressors. Despite its limited economic resources, Cuba committed itself to the cause of African freedom and made available the necessary materials required to battle the overbearing West. This demonstrates why it is essential not only to create mutual bonds with one another in Africa but also to consider countries that share similar interests outside of it. Cuba’s identification with Africa redefined unity and solidarity. This relationship significantly impacted the ties between South Africa and Cuba and between Cuba and other African nations.
Intercontinental collaboration and team building are undeniably important. Still, the need for internal coordination among African countries is even more critical, given their shared history of the brutalization of their culture, person, and heritages. To confront the perpetrators of generational oppression, African nations needed to develop a united front. This speaks to the reality that many individual countries will continue to be victims of similar problems if they refuse to come together and assert themselves at the continental level. The fact that former colonizers remain invested in the subjugation of Africa reveals why the continent’s future could be under extended challenges unless decisive actions are taken. This recognition led to the creation of mechanisms to secure a brighter future for Africa.
It was necessary, and even desirable, for people with similar ambitions to become well-coordinated, allowing them to confront their fears and assert themselves where required. Unity within Africa was non-negotiable and crucial in realizing its fullest potential. While nations could possess power individually, they would have continued to face severe challenges if they did not pursue their goals from a united front. Therefore, their strength consolidated better when they came together to speak as one, as exemplified in the structured and systematized ideas that emerged when they became the African Union (AU).
The organization of these countries into a shared group was not intended to achieve ceramic intentions where people would only come together for the sake of it and not necessarily to enhance measurable changes. As Mbeki emphasizes, the cardinal key to the togetherness of different African countries is to combat internal challenges that have ravaged them in recent years. For example, the problem of underdevelopment has become endemic in Africa to the extent that access to essential opportunities is almost unattainable for the average individual. This chronic underdevelopment has created a challenging atmosphere for survival, contributing more to the destabilization of the continent.
More importantly, African nations must be on the same page in matters of governance and the character of leadership. If some countries disregard the people’s will and install leaders through undemocratic means, it will create a complex problem that will be difficult to manage, as it not only sets a lousy precedent but also encourages dangerous behavior from leaders. Also, the lack of strong institutions in Africa will lead to a rapid decline in the quality of life of individuals and groups, further deepening the continent’s woes.
For instance, African leaders needed to take decisive steps in their engagements to tackle unemployment and combat the misappropriation of public resources. This explains their resolve to organize themselves and thoroughly examine the issues facing them as a continent. Equally important is the need to strengthen their position by understanding powerful countries. It is an amusing irony that after having been oppressed and held down by these nations, African leaders would now seek political collaboration with them. They needed solid knowledge of these former oppressors to avoid sabotage that could send them back into decades of stagnation and backwardness.
This pragmatic approach must be recognized as a necessary sacrifice that African leaders embrace with equanimity, knowing that it could bring sustainable progress if they could only take the required steps. Through those efforts, it is apparent that they would have enough opportunities to establish intercontinental networks to save them from the problems they had hitherto experienced. Mbeki notes that African leaders needed to strategically position themselves to take advantage of global politics, especially in ways that promote their interests and safeguard their future aspirations.
PS: This is a 12-part series based on the collections edited by Sifiso Mxolisi Ndlovu, titled ANC Today Letters: The Ideas and Thoughts of President Thabo Mbeki, Volume 1, 2001-2004, supplemented by materials in the Thabo Mbeki Museum, UNISA, Pretoria. The series is composed over five weeks in three different countries. The museum’s resources, digitized under 27 categories, can generate over 200 books.
Opinion
Secularism And Interfaith Harmony In South Asia: Report From Singapore
Published
2 days agoon
September 8, 2024By Leo Igwe
As Pope Francis landed in Indonesia for a 12-day visit to four countries in Southeast Asia and the South Pacific, Humanists from different parts of the world were leaving the region after a historic General Assembly of Humanists International, the umbrella group of humanists, atheists, and agnostics worldwide. The event took place in Singapore from August 30 to September 1, 2024. The humanist meeting and pope’s visit focused on interfaith harmony, one from a secular and the other from a religious perspective.
I attended the humanist event in Singapore. It was my second visit to South Asia. My first visit was in 1999 when I participated in the World Humanist Congress in India. I looked forward to returning to the region for another humanist event. The delay in the issuance of visas by the embassy of Singapore almost marred the trip. I got my visa approved and my flight booked less than a week before my travel. Something is wrong with the Singaporean visa policy and process in Nigeria. And it has to be fixed. My colleague’s visa application was never approved.
Igwe,PhD, is a board member of Humanists International, UK.
Opinion
The Thabo Mbeki Letters ( Part 10): Politics And Its Dirty Deuces
Published
2 days agoon
September 8, 2024By Toyin Falola
One reason politics is often branded a dirty enterprise is its susceptibility to being wielded as a weapon of destruction. In every country, politics remains dangerous–both as an instrument of construction and destruction. When in alignment with powerful cliques or caucuses, it is often used to elevate individuals and catapult them to greater heights. This is because politicians can access tools to advance such intentions, which they deploy at their will. Anyone who has attained some level of progress or growth can be said to have benefited from the good side of politics. Even if politics is not directly responsible for their success, they must have escaped its destructive hands,
However, when those who wield political power decide to do so, they may become harsh to their targets and exploit their victim’s vulnerability until it brings about their downfall. Thus, it can be inferred that those who have experienced the challenges of life irreparably may have been victims of political forces who wanted them dealt with. This does not imply that all personal problems result from political forces. Still, it does suggest that the inability to overcome such challenges may often be attributable to it. Follow me.
Prof. Toyin Falola (left) and Thabo Mbeki.
The South African experience is telling of the above dynamics. Independence was begrudged to the country by those who had not only earlier imagined that they would hold political power for a very long time but had also consolidated their conception of South Africans as shadows of themselves through the oppressive character of their political system. However, through the bold resistance led by the country’s liberator and other dedicated South Africans, their independence became inevitable–and very fast at that.
Although the domination of colonies by the imperialists was purely for exploitation, it was also inspired by the assumption that the colonized were sub-humans and inferior to them. This contemptuous belief permeated all aspects of their existence, so much so that even the colonized began to internalize these misconceptions at some point. However, once South Africans became strong enough to challenge the foundations of apartheid and colonialism, upholders of that exploitative system responded with attempts to tear down the anti-colonialism efforts. They sought to destroy the integrity of the frontiers of independence advocacy by investing in slander and character assassination campaigns against them.
The first missile in the arsenal of European imperialists, who had long held political power in Africa, was to tarnish the reputation and character of the newly elected Black leaders. They aimed to downplay the importance of self-rule or amplify the unfounded assumption that Black people were not intelligent enough to govern themselves. This became the most potent instrument with which they could destabilize the country and justify the various instances of oppression that they had institutionalized for centuries.
On the assumption of office by the Black leaders, led by Nelson Mandela, the first series of allegations was corruption and abuse of power. The imperialists believed that if they amplified the accusations of misappropriation against these leaders, they could erode their credibility and create enough instability to derail their leadership. This strategy was intended to distract the Black leaders and drag them into a political quagmire. Remarkably, Mandela did not give this distraction the anticipated attention because he understood the underlying politics that produced the hate. He knew the allegations were made maliciously to castrate their political and leadership power and render them useless in the general scheme of things. However, it became crucial for these leaders to clear the air and dismantle the negative perceptions deliberately created as a trap.
Whether truthful or not, it became evident that the masterminds behind these unfounded allegations were mindless about the veracity of their claims. Their goal was to continue with specific authority such that anyone who listened to their claims would be whitewashed to see things from their prejudiced perspective. This explains why the accusers continue to brandish the media to change the narrative about the incorruptibility of emerging African leaders.
Thabo Mbeki recounts how they faced baseless accusations, such as money laundering from buying specific necessities for the country. These claims were unfounded but also malicious and dangerous, lacking any evidence to back them up. Mbeki intones that despite correcting these dangerous narratives, they were not given the necessary attention as the accusers kept running to the media to lend credibility to their allegations.
However, Mbeki and his leadership team did not allow this to sway them, fully aware of their responsibilities and the intent behind these attacks. They discovered that the erstwhile political overlords intended to destroy the integrity of the new African leaders, sowing doubt among the people so that they could reconsider having white leaders remain in critical positions. Where possible, the imperialists wanted to retain their dominance and continue to exploit the people who had long suffered under colonial rule.
Meanwhile, an investigative body established to conduct independent findings found no evidence to substantiate the allegations and could not come up with anything to indict the leaders. Mbeki mentions that the dirty politics of deliberately trashing the reputation of the emerging Black African leaders was designed to achieve different objectives. For one, the former rulers feared that the new government would confront and expose the destructive legacies initiated by the earlier white leaders during apartheid. Fearing accountability for their past wrongdoings, they resorted to aggressively spreading fake information to mischaracterize the African leaders in the new world.
The reconfiguration of human society into a default setting, especially after enduring rounds of brutal, exclusionary leadership, was ultimately tricky and complex for people to understand. It requires immense sacrifice and the willingness to endure character assassination and negative portrayals. The emerging Black leaders in South Africa recognized this potential and accepted the responsibility of being the first African leaders in a postcolonial context. Their commitment to bring about change was rooted in the understanding that unless people stood up to the colonial imperialists–who were relentlessly focused on exploiting both the people and resources–there was a high possibility that the oppressive leadership style of the former white rulers would continue.
Mbeki believes that the redemption of their name lies in the hands of the masses, who have been tremendously helpful during their journey to South Africa’s future. He is convinced that people understand and identify with their struggles. While the campaign of calumny may be spread by the people for provincial objectives, the foundation of their society must be built on truth. Unwavering truthfulness protects their integrity in the eyes of the people.
Honesty is the key to winning the hearts of the masses who have faced detrimental challenges in deciding who truly represents their interests. Mbeki understands that the masses have faced a flood of misinformation about them, especially the baseless accusations of misappropriating public funds. However, he trusts in the people’s ability to see through the tactics of the oppressors who have long endangered them through exploitation. Despite how fast contemptuous information spread, they needed to continue the path of their actions to restore the glory of the country that had been severely bastardized. Black leaders in South Africa have faced numerous challenges, but none as damaging as the displaced and recurring accusations of misappropriating public funds.
PS: This is a 12-part series based on the collections edited by Sifiso Mxolisi Ndlovu, titled ANC Today Letters: The Ideas and Thoughts of President Thabo Mbeki, Volume 1, 2001-2004, supplemented by materials in the Thabo Mbeki Museum, UNISA, Pretoria. The series is composed over five weeks in three different countries. The museum’s resources, digitized under 27 categories, can generate over 200 books.
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